If he had the annoying habit of waiting last minute to ask you to dinner, or the tendency to "forget" to return your texts for a few days, then you can pretty much guarantee that he hasn't changed his ways.
If you've been divorced for just a few months, it's probably too soon to consider getting back together with your ex-husband.
Emotions are likely to be running too high and wounds might still be fresh.
But try not to use that to talk yourself into repeatedly getting back with a partner who does nothing but make your life miserable.
You already has to be different the second time around, or you're both walking into the same doomed situation as before.
Let's say you've rushed into a relationship with a guy and it blew up in your face, or it just sputtered and stalled like your Poppy's jalopy. If both parties are interested in going in for round 2, it speaks to the fact that there's something real between you that's worth exploring. They called off their engagement only to get back together soon after!
Then some time passes, your paths cross and all you both can think is: "Why the hell aren't we together again? __The bad news__Someone wise (ok, she's my therapist) once said to me, "The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior." Patterns are patterns for a reason—they're hard to break.Prior to healthy separation, teenagers often blame their parents for their unhappiness, feel like victims and angrily cite their parents' shortcomings (e.g., "they're too self-centered" or "they don't understand me") as causes for the problems.Doesn't this sound uncomfortably similar to the fighting of marital partners as they are breaking up?When you get back together with a former love, there's no way to know whether it will end up being the best decision of your life or just go up in flames all over again.After all, it's one of the biggest relationship no-nos in the book.Your history together won't just disappear, but the point is that now you're beginning a new partnership with new and healthier emotional habits.