Hinge connects you to those with whom you share Facebook friends. (It's OK to admit it.) Tinder, famously, gives you the opportunity to swipe left or right on a seemingly unlimited number of men, an endless game of Hot or Not.
But the convenience of dating apps brings with it a whole other set of frustrations.
The long term and short term dating choice were non-existent, but things like cross dressing, bdsm, group sex...yeah, those were all present.
Can't say I have an interest in dressing up like a ladyman.
Is there a shared language and set of unspoken rules one must use to navigate a monogamous landscape, also reflected in the digital space?
I spoke with a few self-identified poly participants with online dating experience who wished to remain anonymous.
You're not supposed to want to put a label on whatever it is you're doing.
You're supposed to just be laid-back, not possessive, not texting too much or too quickly.
Among them I found a consensus to use OKCupid, despite some gripes.
Said one couple I spoke with: “OKCupid has been the most effective in finding long-term partners as opposed to one-off hook-ups.
Also it turns out this site is just a new age porn site, you need to pay to see people profiles, email them, etc.