So girls and guys must have drastically different experiences with online dating.The girls post a profile and get bombarded with messages from guys, guys scan profiles and message the girls.Contrary to what we might think, it has been demonstrated that eager replies are not perceived as a turn-off.
So why is it that so many guys and girls (yes girls too) fail miserably in avoiding the move from the Inbox to the trash can?
Extensive research into online dating statistics show that there are some set rules that we all need to follow.
It might not sound very romantic, but you can’t argue with stats and figures and following a set of guidelines will probably help you feel more comfortable when sending your first message.
Netspeak is the main culprit when it comes to unsuccessful first mails.
Our negative correlation list is a fool’s lexicon: was also a successful word, but much less so (33%).
Scientifically, this is because it’s a little evil sounding.
Online dating gives you a bit of an advantage in that you can strategically plan that first message so it hits home with a bit of a punch.
Unlike an everyday face to face meeting where the words just tumble from your mouth in no apparent order.
You’ve found a dating site you want to use, and you’ve created a profile, complete with your most flattering photos.
The next stage is either to sit and wait to be contacted by a potential date, or to look through the site and proactively start sending messages to potential dates yourself.
Your mother always told you so and you never really believed it too much, but the fact is that first impressions really count.