Unless for some odd reason your bestie is 100 percent OK with it, even considering her ex automatically qualifies you as a bad friend. I love my friends, but sharing the same sex partner as them just doesn't strike me as a turn on. You've heard every terrible thing that they did to your best friend.
That goes without saying, but since some seem to forget this, it bears repeating.
Relationship Advice Should You Date an Ex-Boyfriend's Friend?
If your ex-boyfriend had a close group of friends, then you probably had the opportunity to meet them and foster your own relationships with them during the course of your relationship with your ex-boyfriend.
Editor's note: Audrey Irvine is a senior assignment manager for CNN.
Her experiences in the dating world inspire her "Relationship Rant" column.
As a result of these feelings, many women may find themselves becoming attracted to a friend of their ex-boyfriend after they break up.
You may feel tempted to enter into a relationship with one of his friends immediately but before doing so you should consider the fact that your ex-boyfriend's friendship with his friends is not likely to end because you start to date one of them.
It doesn’t have to be an “ask” so much as a heads up to let them know your intentions.
If the friend does have a problem with this, the choice to mess up the squad is completely up to you.
But hey, you wanted her boyfriend so maybe you'll want her name, too. The chances of successful group dates are highly unlikely and if you want to ever bring your bf to those concerts you always attend....well, think again.
Basically, don't be the bitch who dates your best friend's ex. The things that used to annoy you kinda start turning you on.
Five years down the road, if you're still single and interested in her leftovers, then perhaps you both can consider it. You've been compared to your best friend your whole life, do you really want to add your role in bed to that list? I'm just curious what makes you think that they will treat you any differently?